Single girl pet peeves

Discrimination does exist in society. Everyone faces some form of it during their lifetime. I consider myself as pretty easy going but there's one kind of discrimination that I absolutely refuse to sit down and take. It's the single girl discrimination. Every time I walk into a restaurant and ask for a table for one, I get strange looks from the staff. I also get strange pitiful looks from fellow patrons. I can see them trying to work out my story. All I want to do is order a coffee and chocolate cake! I also really want to take my time and enjoy my meal so it annoys me when the waiter tries to rush me and I contemplate taking even longer to finish my meal. In the end I settle by ordering more food or leaving without tipping him/her! Same scenario, works a bit different if a single guy walks into a restaurant. People observe him and have already categorised him as being mysterious and soulful. So not fair!

And this is just at a restaurant. One's social circle can also apply inconsistencies in their treatment of a single girl and a single guy. These are some of the most annoying and infuriating questions/statements/comments/thoughts directed at single girls and guys. So discriminatory.

Immediate Family of a single girl- So are you sure you're not seeing anyone?

Extended family ( Uncles/Aunts etc. ) - Do you like girls?

Immediate/Extended family of a single guy - No questions asked, no explanations required.

Colleagues of a single girl - You're too fussy and particular, I can just see that. 

Colleagues of a single guy - You're the man! Which bar should we go to after work?

Females who are supervised by a single girl - I don't understand why you're single? You need to go out more and meet more people...go to bars. 

(Males supervised by a single girl are simply too intimidated to say anything!)

Females who are supervised by a single guy - He's such a hottie. I wonder why he hasn't settled down yet? Maybe he hasn't found the right woman for him. (Unless the single guy is an absolute asshole of a boss!)

Males supervised by a single guy - Happy hour starts at 5 tonight. Let's get wasted!

Boss of a single girl - You need a life ( What they mean is you need a man! ) 

Also.....You need to relax or you'll burn yourself too early.

Boss of a single guy - You got your priorities sorted. Now let's discuss the next step in your career over drinks on Friday after work.

Friends of a single girl - You don't go out enough.

Or.....You need to get out more.

And....What happened to that guy.....? ( Makes mention of a random guy with whom you had a 30 second conversation at a bar 2 months ago )

And.....You just don't give people a chance.

And of course....You always shut guys down.

And, my all time favourite which gets used every single time....

You just need to put yourself out there.

Meanwhile, in a parallel universe on Planet Earth, in a single guy's world............this conversation in non-existent.

Hate

I hate talking when I first wake up. 

I hate people being chirpy and bubbly before 8 a.m. Give me a chance to get some caffeine into my system!

I hate people being fake. Everyone can see through you, so stop.

I hate it when people expect me to maintain eye contact and give them full attention while they are explaining something that will take a minute, and manage to drag it into 15. Let me multitask at least if you're going to be that slow about it!

I hate lies. I also hate it when people get caught in their lies. You can't even do that right so give it up, will you?!

I hate drainers who waffle on about their miseries. Suck it up, there's worse things out there.

I hate it when people ask you to dream. I especially hate it when they don't live up to the dream they made me dream.

Hate...such a strong four-letter word. It both creates as well as destroys. I don't hate people, never really have. I hate the things they do, I hate the lies they speak, I hate the false dreams they weave.

Loss

I tried to forget, I failed. I tried to remember, thinking that over-thinking will make me bored and force me to forget....I failed. I tried once again to forget and failed yet again. Now I'm at a loss, loss of ideas, thoughts, words. Can't hold on, can't let go. I'm angry with you, but even more at myself. I say that it's your loss, but the loss is truly mine.

Remember you/ Remember me

 Fragments are all I remember

Fragments are what I have left.

The last time we talked

The last time I saw your face

The last time we kissed

I barely recall.

I saw you standing at the pier

I see me standing on a bridge

Our eyes meet for the briefest of moments

And it's déjà vu all over again.

I'll let you go tomorrow

Stay with me tonight.

Pieces of you and me

Remnants of yesterday.

Words spoken and unspoken

Butterflies, fantasies and lost tears

All part of the same puzzle

Whose parts I seem to have misplaced.

Ignorance is Bliss???

It's been a while I've written..it's been a while I've made time to breathe. Completely been caught up in mundane activities thereby depriving my soul. Kept myself busy, distracted  and unfulfilled. 

Was talking to a friend about stuff, and all of a sudden the truth hit me. I said, " Ignorance is bliss". I do believe that now. A year ago I had short term plans/goals. I have always been a firm believer in setting goals. For some reason cannot set long term ones but always set six/twelve monthly goals and actions to achieve them. 

Last year I set goals of becoming a manager of a small branch, and then to move on to a medium sized branch by July this year, all of which I achieved. I also set myself a goal to become a manager of a large sized branch after 18 months i.e. by February 2014.

I'm not too sure anymore. An experience changed me and is drawing me towards making some life changes. I want to put a stop to goal setting and achieving on the career front. I'm tending towards living a dream now. 

They say change is the only constant in life. I'm experiencing this firsthand. I have changed, my path is changing. I'm not sure whether it's for the better or not. I wish I was in the dark, I wish I was unaware how clueless I was. Now, I'm aware. Hence, ignorance is truly bliss in my case. Everything is different. I am lost, I have no passion left. I wish I had the courage to embrace this cluelessness and forge ahead. I wish I find the courage to take this risk.

Want

Today I progressed. I deleted the notes we wrote. I deleted the hopes we shared. I deleted it all. I want new notes, I want new hopes. I want things to be easy. I want everything my way. Sick of hanging on. Want to let go. I want a fresh start. I want a new adventure. I want to forget and yet I have some amazing memories which I can't afford to forget. I want it all and I want it now.

Leap of faith

I sit here and think of all the times I've taken a chance, a risk and not many instances come to mind. I wonder why as I always have been unconventional, unrestrained by norms. I've hated boundaries and have hardly ever stuck to them. Why then have I hardly taken the plunge?


It could perhaps be because I've hardly ever had someone take a chance on me. I've had to work for everything, never got anything for free. I may have had some success in overcoming obstacles, but I still have earned every ounce of my achievement. Success in your professional life has very little to do with success in your personal life and vice versa. I consider myself to be quite successful when it comes to my career. However, on the personal front, not so much. I guess I put too much of myself into work and don't play enough. Most of my risks have been in my professional life and they've worked out. On the other hand, I treat my personal life with caution. The few times I've taken a risk in that department, I've been snubbed. Now, I'm totally out of my comfort zone if I'm asked to take a risk. Recently I took one which didn't work out too well for me. Question is, should I stop while I'm ahead or throw caution to the wind? I'm waiting for someone to take that leap of faith for me, before I jump.